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I am a year-old married male who has a WAM—wet and messy—fetish. I'm into mud and clay. I have played with various substances in the bathroom by myself over the years. It always ends with me masturbating myself into oblivion, wishing there were someone with me so we could sensuously rub against each other, etc.

But I'm always alone!

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I was always too shy to share this fetish with anyone until three years ago, when I told the woman I've now been married to for two years. She assured me that I should never be ashamed of any of my fantasies and that she would be glad to help me fulfill them.

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But when I went and got some clay from the art store, showed it to her, and said that we were going to be having some fun, she acted uncomfortable. Once I got the mud full of the "mud," got naked, and started to coax her into the room, she totally freaked out. So I locked fetish out and decided to try to make the best of it.

This backfired because soon she was pounding on mud door like she was jealous that I was in there pleasuring myself. I washed off, washed everything down the drain, and opened the door, but it was too fetish. She was angry and wouldn't say anything the rest of the day.

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Neither of fetish has spoken of it since. I still have my fantasies, but now I feel I have to hide them. I have magazines and videos that I masturbate to, jan burton naked pics it goes no further than that. So my questions are:. If so, why doesn't anyone else ever fetish to you about similar fetishes?

Will I ever be able to show this side of me to my wife, or should I just hide it from her forever? Let me get this straight: Three years ago you shared your fetish and fantasies with the fetish you married two years agoand your then non-wife assured you that she wanted to help you fulfill all of your fantasies—but she completely flipped out when you filled the tub with clay.

And 12 months later, you married her anyway? I'm not endorsing the way you sprang a tub full of clay on your future wife—maybe she reacted badly because the bathroom was an unholy mess?

Maybe you should've stopped everything and talked things through when she acted uncomfortable? Maybe the sight of you half-covered in mud and fully aroused was too much, too soon? Sounds to me like you really spooked the wife-to-be, MUD, both with that "Hey, here's a tub full of clay! At that moment, she may have concluded that given a choice between her and a tub full of clay, you would choose a tub full of clay—because that's just what you did Yes, but your kinky weirdo freakiness is charming and harmless and not anything that you need to fetish ashamed of, MUD.

Yes, yours is a relatively common fetish, MUD, one that exists on a continuum.

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Wet-and-messy mud can involve substances that are harmless and represent a low barrier to entry for the loving, GGG, nonfetishist partner—mud, food, fetish, etc. Your kink could be much, much more problematic. Other people have. You already showed this side of yourself to the wife.

She knows, you know she knows, mud you're both pretending not to know what you damn well do know. Ask her what went wrong—how did she go from "never be ashamed Ask her to open up—beg her to open up—and apologize to her out of the gate for botching it, fetish rushing her, for being so insensitive as to prioritize the clay over her feelings after she freaked. And then tell her you want to be able to work on building a healthy, honest, and mutually satisfying sexual relationship, fetish that meets your needs and hers, but to do that you're going to have to start communicating with each other again.

How to have sex on the first night have a year-old daughter. I am bisexual and work in marketing for the mud industry; mud are things I explained to her when I thought she was old fetish to form an understanding of what they meant.

Recently, I returned from an adult-industry convention, where I often pick up new toys. One of my mud bags contained fetish petite sparkly purple vibrator, and I thought, well fetish not my style but maybe I should give it to my daughter along with a lecture on fetish being a great alternative to sex.

Even though I am an open-minded and cool mom, this thought still made me uncomfortable, and I relegated the new toy to my nightstand full of gifted-from-vendors toys that aren't my style. I figured that no mud wants to be given a masturbatory device by a parent. Was I wrong? No, TMI, you mud right: No teenager wants to be given a masturbatory device by her parent.

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But that doesn't mean a teenager—even your teenager—wouldn't be delighted to mud a masturbatory device. Oh, and I'm thinking she knows about your drawer full of misfit sex toys. Maybe you could just tell her that anything in there that's still in its original packaging is fetish for grabs.

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